Breaking up is hard to do

Lee's Summit JournalOctober 9, 2013 

This week, the city of Lee’s Summit finally had to pull the Band-Aid off its relationship with Dusty Dahmer and his coveted land near Third, SW Main and Market streets.

You see, it just wasn’t working out any longer.

Relationships are hard, we all know that.

But instead of asking for his hand in marriage, City Manager Steve Arbo was forced into a painful breakup with Dahmer.

It just wasn’t working out with Dusty and City Hall.

Maybe it was the “champagne taste on a light beer budget” that ultimately downed this relationship.

Or maybe, as in many felled relationships, it was simply a lack of communication.

There was love in the past. Promises made. Lots of guarantees and assurances that one side or another would change.

But really, people don’t change. And relationships fail when we cannot simply accept one another for who we really are; give and show love despite our shortfalls.

Words are exchanged, then we start showing up to meetings with attorneys and speaking in legalese instead of love languages.

How soon we forget what “our songs” were; those memorable tunes are replaced with bitter memories of bickering and arguments.

We transition from “I Got You Babe,” to “Don’t Know What You Got (Till It’s Gone).”

Or even worse, we start spinning “If I Loved You” by Delta Rae (featuring Lindsey Buckingham).

Alas, if only Lindsey Buckingham were here in Lee’s Summit, perhaps we could have averted this disaster to our love story.

But no amount of rock n’ roll or love ballads can seemingly avert this breakup now.

Separating in hopes of leveraging something hardly ever works. And once we said it was “over,” going back would lend itself to a whole new barrage of trust issues.

The gifts at the wedding would have been legendary – music, art, a whole new look to downtown right by the railroad tracks.

But it simply wasn’t meant to be.

My hope is you both can still remain friends.

John Beaudoin is the publisher of the Lee’s Summit Journal. To comment, call 816-282-7001 or e-mail


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